One of my former bosses used to always say to people he had not seen in a while, “you are conspicuous by your absence”
And, no… I have not published a blog entry in a few months… partly because I am working on restructuring the format, reworking the content I present, and also I’ve been doing a lot of writing/saving entries… just have not felt the push to post anything.
I also have been thinking about my own image/portrayal… How do I want to be received? How do I want to be remembered? I have a lot of experiences to share, views on things related to life and fitness more specifically… yet, I do not feel this drive to shove my views down the throats of my social media followers and blog subscribers.
I have been posting less, sharing less, taking less photos, talking less… spending more time reading, reflecting, learning, and of course, exercising. You see, while I know I am completely transparent, honest, and express myself freely… I also realize that not every thought needs to be expressed exactly at the moment in which I think it. Maybe I’m analyzing too much… but the more nonsense I see being put out into the world, particularly on social media… the more inclined I am to remain quiet and focused on the things that truly bring me joy, happiness, a sense of fulfillment.
So have no fear… I have not disappeared… I have not gone anywhere, except the Jersey Shore for 2 days at the very end of the summer (that was the first and only time I felt sand in between my toes in 2015)… Just rethinking EVERYTHING!
The path you walk is yours to walk alone…. while it would be nice for your friends and family to offer support and encouragement, they do not NEED to agree with you 100% of the time or even understand why you do what you do. You are the one living your life and it is up to you to make the most of it. For years, I tried to live a life that I hoped my family and peers would approve of… no, be in awe of… and the thought of being successful revolved around how many zeros were in my annual salary… WRONG! Guess what… I decided in 2012 to change my life… and while I wound up taking a HUGE pay cut, I am much happier… It was a big risk to shift gears into Personal Training from working in Corporate America as a Property Manager for nearly a decade (with prior years working in the Engineering field… Yes, I’m a total nerd with a B.S. in Mechanical Engineering)… But my passion for LIFE kept pushing me in this direction. Here’s a side note, I still have the admiration and awe of my parents and friends, because I had the courage to take the leap.
Many times, it is best to move in silence, and let the outcome speak for itself… I believe following your passion is a good starting point, but make sure you plan a few steps and can pay your bills… Then…
let it go!
We don’t have bad days
We smile and are courteous to our clients even on the worst of the worst possible days.
We stand on our feet all day long.
We shovel food in our mouths like animals, most of the time cold, out of a tupperware, and usually just standing in the locker room because there is little time for eating. Most of us live on protein shakes.
We service clients that want to train early in the morning as well as late at night, many times on the same day.
We scramble to do things like grocery shopping and laundry in between appointments on our “light” days, which could be any given day of the week, but most definitely not Saturday (which is when all the weekend warriors want to train).
We work hard to maintain a professional tone throughout our sessions, even when clients tell us very personal things like stories about their spouse, kids, work, etc.
We generally work hard to accommodate our clients’ needs.
We drink a lot of coffee and/or tea to remain alert and focused for our clients.
We do get tired at times. We are human too. We like to workout also and love our private time to do that, even when you interrupt us on our own time.
We want you to succeed and accomplish your goals.
We often become emotionally invested in your journey.
We appreciate your “thank yous” and loyalty.
Be nice to your trainer.
There is one day left in the year 2014… by the time you read this, there may be even less than 24 hours… I’m not going to go into cliché bits about “looking back” or establishing new goals for 2015… I mean, come on… you’ve heard it all before. Truth is, if your goals have anything to do with getting in shape for an event such as a mud race or Powerlifting meet or just trying to get lean for yourself… why would you wait until 2015? Hopefully, you’ve already started! There are no rules as to when to start a new goal. There is no right time. The time is now, no wait… the time might have just passed… but now is the moment you realized it and can get going!
oh… hang on… so, before we go racing off to the sporting goods store to get a pair of weightlifting shoes and chalk for that meet you entered…. or placing the order for that rhinestone-encrusted bikini for next spring’s bodybuilding show….
HOW DID YOU DO IN 2014?
If you feel brave, leave a comment below telling me what your goal(s) for 2014 consisted of and how you did.
Ok, I’ll go first… My goals for 2014 were the following:
1. Master Olympic Lifts – Started learning various lifts and by April, I made a hard left and got into Powerlifting. I entered and won my very first Powerlifting meet in July. Great experience. Can’t wait to do another one next year.
2. Improve Cardiovascular Endurance – Made noticeable/measurable improvements so that can be marked off as COMPLETED!
3. Earn Nutrition Certification – Still in the process of studying. I did not receive my course book and materials until the 2nd Quarter of the year, so I did have a slight disadvantage. Plan is to complete this certification by the end of January 2015.
So, I was honest…. Are you honest with yourself? I really would love to hear from you… you can leave comments in the comment section below or find me on Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/FitbyTiana
And before we say Goodbye to 2014…. I would like to wish you all a very
Happy New Year!
I would like to briefly explain my thought process behind a desired repetition range of an exercise/workout program. If you are relatively new to weight training, you may find this helpful.
In your workout routine, for a specific exercise, the program calls for 4 sets of 8 to 10 repetitions. Before you even select a weight, think about what weights you have used for said exercise in the past. Now, in a perfect comfortable world, you should be able to complete 4 sets of 10 repetitions with this weight. But the idea here is to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. The only way to grow is getting to that uncomfortable, challenging place, where you are going to struggle, grit your teeth, bite your tongue, possibly yell out loud and might need help.
My approach is as such… select a weight that starts to get difficult for you around the 6th rep, is very difficult at the 7th rep, and the remaining reps might not even be completed without a spot. Of course you want to complete the number of sets listed in the workout, but you should be challenging yourself, which is what resistance training is all about, right?
If you are a beginner, you might want to hire a trainer to help you understand this concept and to push you accordingly, until you get accustomed to doing it on your own.
Try this mental approach the next time you’re in the gym. Push yourself just a little further than you feel comfortable with… I bet you can complete the task at hand… DO IT!
I recently wrote a short piece about things your Trainer SHOULD be doing… Now I put together a quick DOs & DON’Ts for all you fabulous people who work with a Personal Trainer.
- Be prepared to workout
- Have on proper footwear
- Bring a bottle of water
- Leave your phone in the locker
- Ask questions if you are unsure of an exercise or expectation
- Be honest with your trainer – if the exercise or the weight selected was too easy, tell your trainer.
- Be patient if your trainer is new and gathering data, getting familiar with you.
- Do not start off a relationship with your new trainer by listing off various things you will not do… Please note I said “WILL NOT” not “CANNOT” do. Big difference here.
- Do not cancel your session last-minute and expect the trainer not to charge you. Most trainers/gyms have a 24-hour cancellation policy.
- Do not complain the entire session.
- Do not constantly compare your new trainer to an old trainer or compare your current abilities to when you were in your prime (30 years ago).
- Do not show up to your sessions with the pungent odor of alcohol oozing from your pores or the smell of greasy fast food on your breath. NOT CUTE.
- Do not even think about wearing flip-flops or Crocs to train.
- Do not wear ear buds with your phone or mp3 player during your session. You need to hear your trainer’s cues at all times.
Being alone is not the worst feeling. In my opinion, what’s worse is being in a relationship with someone, yet feeling all alone.
It hurts when you are giving someone your all….. And getting little in return. You put this person on a pedestal, usually without him or her earning it… You’re super hopeful… You hold your breathe, you keep your fingers crossed…. And then end up sad when he/she disappoints.
Why does this happen? What is it about this person delivering mediocrity that you continue accepting and allow to persist? You’re not happy currently. You’re holding on to what “might” be… what “could” be… but what currently exists doesn’t even bring you a forced smile.
“I’m stressed out.
I’m tired all the time.
I need to do X or I need to go here/there.”
You’re not a priority in this person’s life, not by any means. Everything comes before you and you have allowed it to be that way.
Know your worth and stand up for yourself.
When someone goes back on his/her word, call that person out on it. Speak up about how it makes you feel. Explain that you’re unhappy. Easier said than done, especially if you don’t have a lot of opportunity to spend time together and the last thing you want to do is fight…
Do people deserve second chances? Sometimes… yes. But never ignore your instincts. Never ignore what your gut is telling you.
At some point in time “POTENTIAL” is not enough.