Latina

As I get older, my roots, the blood in my veins, and the music that plays in my heart echo louder and louder… as if my ancestors are reaching out to me from their graves… I have always been very proud of the name Gonzalez and of who I am…  but due to circumstances out of my control I was not immersed in my culture as a child and adolescent… Both of my parents worked very hard to break recurring cycles that passed on from generation to generation, and while I am proud of them both for providing a life for me that was different from each of their respective lives, I always felt disconnected from my culture, from my extended family, and from mi orgullo (my roots).  Now, I’m in my mid-30s, seeking out people to practice my Spanish-speaking skills with and constantly listening to Spanish radio stations, partially to get up to speed with current music, but also to listen to commercials and the DJs between each song to test my comprehension.

It is not easy, but it is so worth it.  Puerto Rican culture is so rich and my family history is something I’m sure I will always have questions about, since I now have only one living Grandparent.  I do wish I was raised bilingual, but if it takes me the rest of my life to get there, so be it.  It’s worth it.

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Questions

What motivates you to wake up each day and do the things you do?

How will you make today better than yesterday?

Is happiness a choice for you or do you feel like it’s something you must seek out?

Do you have goals and if so, when was the last time you reviewed them or reset them?  Are you getting closer to them?

Do you live each day with a purpose?

What type of impact do you want to leave behind?

What will your legacy tell the world about you?

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Solo

Being alone is not the worst feeling. In my opinion, what’s worse is being in a relationship with someone, yet feeling all alone.

It hurts when you are giving someone your all….. And getting little in return. You put this person on a pedestal, usually without him or her earning it… You’re super hopeful… You hold your breathe, you keep your fingers crossed….  And then end up sad when he/she disappoints.

Why does this happen?  What is it about this person delivering mediocrity that you continue accepting and allow to persist?  You’re not happy currently.  You’re holding on to what “might” be… what “could” be… but what currently exists doesn’t even bring you a forced smile.

Constant excuses….

“I’m stressed out.
I’m tired all the time.
I need to do X or I need to go here/there.”

You’re not a priority in this person’s life, not by any means.  Everything comes before you and you have allowed it to be that way.

Know your worth and stand up for yourself.

When someone goes back on his/her word, call that person out on it.  Speak up about how it makes you feel.  Explain that you’re unhappy.  Easier said than done, especially if you don’t have a lot of opportunity to spend time together and the last thing you want to do is fight…

Do people deserve second chances?  Sometimes… yes.  But never ignore your instincts.  Never ignore what your gut is telling you.

At some point in time “POTENTIAL” is not enough.

Warrior of the Light – excerpt

A Warrior of the Light does not postpone making decisions.

He thinks a great deal before taking action. He considers his training, as well as his responsibilities and duties as a teacher. He tries to remain calm and to analyse each step as if it were of supreme importance.

However, as soon as he has made a decision, the Warrior proceeds: He has no doubts about his chosen action, nor does he change direction if circumstances turn out differently from how he had imagined them.

If his decision is correct, he will win the battle, even if it lasts longer than expected. If his decision is wrong, he will be defeated and he will have to start all over again-only this time with more wisdom.

But once he has started, a Warrior of the Light perseveres until the end.

~ Excerpt from the book Warrior of the Light by Paulo Coelho

 

Encouragement

You never know how your words can impact another person.  Even the slightest pat on the back, smile, or “good morning” to someone can impact that person’s day in such an amazing way… and usually people pass on that good vibe.    We all give off vibrations… moods… auras… and it’s constantly changing.  While there are certainly not going to be blue skies 100% of the time, it’s important to check how we are feeling throughout the day and try our best to get a handle on things.  Now…. I didn’t say this was easy, I just said it might be important to you.

Happiness is a choice… and if you are feeling good, why not spread that positive vibration to your neighbor?  It won’t hurt at all…  and maybe…

you can help lift someone’s spirits up.

Try it 🙂

 

 

Important

Who is important to you? Who is your number one?  And does this person know?…. You know what I mean… like the way you know that the sun rises every morning and sets each evening.  (CONFIDENCE)

If you’re not sure, maybe you should take a moment and share your feelings.  All too often people have misunderstandings because they don’t know where they stand with each other. (TRUST)

If only people weren’t afraid to truly express themselves and if only people weren’t so awkward at receiving intense, meaningful, passionate words and expressiveness from each other.  (LOVE)

We live in an age where people hide behind keyboards, laptops and mobile devices and avoid intimacy, hugs, kisses, and sex out of fear….   Stop living in fear and start showing the people who are important to you that they are indeed just that………….

IMPORTANT

Hero

Often times we look for strength outside of ourselves… We search high and low for something to believe in, something greater, something spectacular, something motivational.  Do yourself a favor, and look in the mirror.  Be your own Hero.  You are stronger than you realize… and yes, even I need this reminder once in a while.