Progress Not Perfection

One of the recurring undertones in my profession, both with my in-person clients at the gym as well as my contest prep clients, is the desire to see results faster.  People… please! If there is anyone that understands this, it is me.  A woman that has been on top of the mountain and had her dream physique, only to lose it in what seemed like an unfair pull of the rug from underneath her feet.  What feels like a never ending battle to find perfection can be so frustrating.

I say these things daily… “It takes time”, “Be patient”, “The things you want to get rid of didn’t get there overnight”, “Be realistic with yourself”, “Enjoy the process!”

What I will also tell you is this: There are things you can control and things you will have to learn to deal with.

What can you control?

  1. How you exercise – intensity, frequency, duration
  2. What you consume – quantity, frequency
  3. How you cope with life stress – we all have stress and we all must cope
  4. Prioritizing yourself – your workouts should be a priority, if they are just something you do when you “get a chance” you will struggle finding results.

What will you have to learn to deal with?

  1. Managing your time
  2. Juggling your priorities such as work and family responsibilities
  3. Sleep – or lack thereof and how to improve sleeping habits
  4. The process of reaching your goals

Although it can be frustrating, patience is something we all need in the pursuit of our goals.  Find comfort in things such as a better athletic performance, like lifting heavier weight, running faster, being able to climb a flight of stairs without losing your breathe… etc.  The final outcome is a culmination of many small, mundane and sometimes boring habits repeated over and over for an extended amount of time, perhaps much longer than  you care to recognize.  The time will pass regardless, so why not stick with the plan and charge forward?

My Life

If you looked in my life
And see what I’ve seen…

 

This song is on the 2nd album Mary J. Blige released in November 1994… I was a Junior in High School and I purchased the cassette tape… and of course put miles of use on my stereo tape player listening to it repeatedly.  This song is particularly special to me.  The lyrics hit me hard at a time in my life when I was dealing with a lot of internal strife, pain, and no outlet.  My family had been ripped apart, flipped on its head, and my heart ached nonstop. I found comfort in blasting music and dancing in my room… Sometimes, I would put on my walkman and just walk up and down the neighborhood streets, praying to God for peace, for a resolution, and for comfort… It wouldn’t come for many years… and I do recall sharply telling people “if you say to me one more time that what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger, I will kick you”… Yea, I had some anger issues.  Now, I listen to this song and feel peace… and gratitude that I had something and somewhere to turn.

It is easy to pass judgment on people, without really knowing what private struggles each is dealing with.  Perhaps being kind, patient and a bit more understanding could go a long way with someone… You just never know.  Hope you enjoy the track.